My husband and I argue...alot. I'm not saying that we argue all day, every day but, we do argue.
I used to feel that..."ok, we must not be meant to be together"...after we have a heated arguement. I had to realize that in the beginning of the relationship, I was very passive. Whatever he wanted to do, I would just follow along. Now as I've grown (in age and wisdom), I've learned to voice my opinions alot more.
I've also realized that we are two different people who were raised completely differently. We don't have the same opinions about many things. We ARE going to disagree. Sometimes we feel passionately about what we are saying and it gets loud every now and then. But you know what?...our relationship is stronger for it. We don't hold anything back. We have OUR way of communicating and it seems to be working!
Some people say that being committed to one person for long periods of time just "sucks the life" out of life. They believe that marriage takes the fun out. That is not necessarily the case. When you are dating, there are always those hour long conversations. You tell each other about your day, what happened last week, who did what to whom at work, etc. The more time you spend with each other, the more you know about what goes on in each other's life. So...10 to 20 years later your conversation may just be 15-30 minutes long. That doesn't mean that there's nothing left of interest in each; you just most likely already know what happened during most of their day already. Don't think of the short conversations as a negative thing. Think of it as...you know each other very well at this point and you don't have to make extreme efforts to try to entertain each. You are at a stage in your life where you are comfortable just sitting with each other silently. For me...Sometimes after I've worked all day and talked with customers and other employees ALL day, I just want to come home and sit with my husband and watch TV in silence and that makes me happy.
