ACCEPTANCE

There may be times when you feel that your significant other is not living up to your expectations.  Well, the fact that they are YOUR expectations may be the problem.  Consider...they may not be capable of living up to your high expectations.  Consider...your expectations are more of how you hoped they would evolve as time passed.  I had to realize that I went into my relationship thinking that he would eventually change and mature as years passed.  That was my mistake.  I knew who he was and what his personality and character was when I came to know him.  It was my mistake to think that he would change or that I could change him.  When I learned to accept him as he was and not stress over or become frustrated that he did not do things they way I wanted him to or that he didn't rationalize or think the way I did; I became more at ease and less frustrated with him.  ACCEPTANCE...

To truly love our spouse is to protect them...

It says in 1 Corinthians 13:7 that love “always protects.” That doesn’t mean love enables, covers over, or makes secret those things that should be brought to the light. (Giving “protecting love” is being very careful and prayerful of when, where, and with whom, we share “personal” details of our married life that need extra help and wise counsel.) To truly love our spouse is to protect them by showing honor and respect for their feelings— not revealing or doing anything that will embarrass or “cut them down.” By doing so, we’re dishonoring them and showing that we don’t value them.

-by Marriage Missions International:  http://www.marriagemissions.com/scriptures-on-marriage/

QUOTE OF THE DAY: "Happiness in marriage....."

"Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created."

 

- Wilferd Arlan Peterson

Your Relationship is Not Over Just Because You Argue

My husband and I argue...alot.  I'm not saying that we argue all day, every day but, we do argue. 

I used to feel that..."ok, we must not be meant to be together"...after we have a heated arguement.  I had to realize that in the beginning of the relationship, I was very passive.  Whatever he wanted to do, I would just follow along.  Now as I've grown (in age and wisdom), I've learned to voice my opinions alot more. 

I've also realized that we are two different people who were raised completely differently.  We don't have the same opinions about many things.  We ARE going to disagree.  Sometimes we feel passionately about what we are saying and it gets loud every now and then.  But you know what?...our relationship is stronger for it.  We don't hold anything back.  We have OUR way of communicating and it seems to be working! 

When You and Your Mate Don't Have Conversations Anymore

Some people say that being committed to one person for long periods of time just "sucks the life" out of life.  They believe that marriage takes the fun out.  That is not necessarily the case.  When you are dating, there are always those hour long conversations.  You tell each other about your day, what happened last week, who did what to whom at work, etc.  The more time you spend with each other, the more you know about what goes on in each other's life.  So...10 to 20 years later your conversation may just be 15-30 minutes long.  That doesn't mean that there's nothing left of interest in each; you just most likely already know what happened during most of their day already.  Don't think of the short conversations as a negative thing.  Think of it as...you know each other very well at this point and you don't have to make extreme efforts to try to entertain each.  You are at a stage in your life where you are comfortable just sitting with each other silently.  For me...Sometimes after I've worked all day and talked with customers and other employees ALL day, I just want to come home and sit with my husband and watch TV in silence and that makes me happy.